The Defender – Understanding the INFJ Personality Type
In the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator framework, personality types represent various approaches to life. Each one is a fascinating study with its own unique strengths and weaknesses. And people have succeeded immensely by understanding them better.
Most people take the MBTI in order to understand themselves. Understandably so. However, this tool is just as useful in understanding others, especially for managers and HR personnel.
There are 16 different MBTI personality types, which might seem like a daunting list to familiarize yourself with. Yet the benefits can be intense.
When we really know who we’re working with, we’re in a much better position to maximize their potential.
Consider the INFJ designation, nicknamed “The Defender.” It’s the rarest of the 16, making up just 1% of the U.S. population; and it’s even more uncommon for a man to be one. Sometimes described as a “walking contradiction,” these individuals are pretty secretive about their personal lives, allowing only a very small inner circle to know them inside and out.
Yet it is possible to understand an INFJ – no matter how guarded they might be.
An INFJ’s Daily Life
If you’re an INFJ, your way of life is mainly internal. You use your intuition to process information first and foremost.
Having structure and order in the outside world is very important for INFJs – even if they may display somewhat disorganized workspaces or living areas. Absolute order, after all, is difficult to maintain and probably requires a much more externally minded focus.
INFJs spend a great deal of effort figuring out the most effective method for finishing tasks, and they continually establish and reassess their priorities. Yet they function intuitively and completely spontaneously within themselves.
Incredibly perceptive, INFJs have an innate understanding of people and circumstances without necessarily having in-depth knowledge of the topic at hand. Moreover, most of the time, they’re correct – and they know it.
They simply “feel” things, sensing what’s real and what isn’t. As an extreme illustration of this tendency, some INFJs have described having intense psychic feelings about loved ones… only to then learn they were involved in an automobile accident or some other tragedy.
Other personality types can and do laugh and belittle this kind of behavior, with some understandable reason. And even INFJs themselves may not fully comprehend their intuition, at least not to the point where they can describe it. Yet it’s real and can actually be quite useful.
Incidentally, the lack of support about their “powers” is part of why most INFJs are guardians of their inner selves, disclosing information about their personal lives only as they see fit.
Though they can attain significant inner depth and depth of feeling, INFJs do not always have an easy life.
INFJ Strengths
INFJs are profoundly complex. The main reason being that many facets of their personalities appear to be at odds with one another. Yet it’s these very contradictions that are what most observers find fascinating about INFJs.
They might describe themselves as extroverted introverts, calm yet emotional, pessimistically optimistic or optimistically pessimistic, and/or logically creative or creatively logical – just to name a few possibilities.
As already described, INFJs have a great deal of faith in their gut feelings and intuitions. Yet, thanks to their internal-external struggle, they’re often not as judgmental as other structured personality types.
They actually make intense efforts to be kind in order to prevent harming others since they care about their feelings.
Patient, loyal, and protective by nature, INFJs are typically devoted parents who share close ties with their children. They have high expectations for their children and urge them to reach their full potential and have high expectations for them.
While this can occasionally turn into obstinate and hard-nosed guidance, most children of INFJs receive profoundly compassionate and committed parental guidance.
They have equally high standards for themselves, striving to live in accordance with their strong moral convictions and systems of values. INFJs are, in some respects, gentle and laid-back due to the emotion component of their personalities.
But they’re very value-oriented and don’t believe in compromising on what they hold dear.
Challenges Faced by INFJs
On the downside, the INFJ nature almost always encourages them to be private – to a fault – and challenging to understand. Downright secretive at times, they have a bad habit of withholding aspects of who they are.
Along those lines, INFJs aren’t always the best speakers. They can and do listen with the best of them, but when it comes to expressing what they’re thinking, they can too easily trip over their own language.
In addition, because they’re so intuitive with such justifiable confidence in their gut feelings, they run the risk of automatically assuming they’re right even when they’re not. This can mean that the INFJ becomes narrow-minded, disregarding the opinions of others in some situations.
They’re also too peace oriented. Because they seek harmony so much for both themselves and especially those around them, they easily fail to see when conflict can actually be a positive.
For instance, they might very well avoid telling someone that they’re offended… even though doing so could actually strengthen the relationship long-term.
In the same regard, the typically calm INFJ can become agitated or angry when confronted with conflicting situations. And if the stress builds up too much, they can internalize conflict into physical health issues.
Coaching and Development for INFJs
INFJs are perfectionists who question if they’re reaching their full potential. Never totally content with who they are, they always think there’s something more they could be doing to better the world and themselves.
Since they consider growth to be a continuous state of being, they don’t typically take the time to celebrate their successes. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t compliment them, however; appreciation is always encouraging to hear.
INFJs typically shine in roles that allow them to be creative and relatively autonomous at work. They’re naturally drawn to the arts, though many do quite well in more scientific studies since they can apply their intuition there. And service-oriented vocations are another great spot to encourage them toward.
They do, however, struggle to handle minuscule details and intricate assignments. Their tendency is to either steer clear of these situations altogether… or get so engrossed in the minutiae that they lose sight of the larger picture.
It’s also the detail-engrossed INFJ that can get quite judgmental of others who aren’t so focused. So managers should watch out for that.
INFJs in the Workplace
Don’t let the INFJ’s introverted nature fool you. This grouping’s ability to read people and desire to help makes them very suitable for many people-oriented professions. Always looking for ways to grow and encourage others to grow, their gifts can bring new depths of understanding to those who seek their expertise.
Potential INFJ career possibilities include:
- Religious and clergy positions
- Employment instructors,
- Physicians and dentists
- Alternative medical professionals, such as reflexologists and chiropractors, psychologists and psychiatrists
- Social professionals and counselors
- Artists and musicians
- Photographers
- Early childhood development and childcare professionals.